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LOVE & BELONGING: Building Healthy Connections (Love & Belonging)
You’ve spent too much time thinking you have to earn love, prove your worth, or fix yourself to be worthy of connection. But the truth? You were always enough. The work now isn’t about becoming more lovable—it’s about unlearning the bullshit that told you otherwise.You are allowed to step away from relationships that leave you drained.
You are allowed to exist without over-explaining your worth.
You are allowed to take up space as your whole, unfiltered self.Real love—real belonging—doesn’t ask you to shrink. The people who truly see you won’t require you to perform, sacrifice, or prove yourself. You deserve to be in spaces where you can be your whole fcking self.
Healing Stage: Learning to Love & Be Loved in a Healthy Way
Love has never been simple for you. Trusting people? Hard.
Setting boundaries? Even harder.
Feeling like you actually deserve love? Sometimes impossible.
🔹 You are still unlearning people-pleasing and codependency.
🔹 You are working on trust—trusting yourself, trusting others, and trusting that love can be safe.
🔹 You are recognizing that the way you love was shaped by past trauma.
Validation: You Are Enough Right Now
You do not have to perform for love.
You do not have to prove your worth.
You do not have to be more, do more, or give more just to be accepted.
You are already enough.
Actionable Steps: What You Need Right Now
✨Release one toxic dynamic. Just one. Maybe it’s unfollowing them, not responding to that text, or choosing not to engage in their chaos.
✨Practice self-parenting. If your younger self were sitting beside you, what would you tell them? What love, protection, or kindness would they need from you right now?
✨Rebuild trust with yourself. Honor your own boundaries. Follow through on promises to yourself, just like you would for someone you love.
✨Let yourself receive love. Not every act of kindness requires reciprocation. Love does not have to be earned—it can simply exist.
Content Warning: Personal Reflections Ahead
The following section contains personal insights and experiences related to healing and trauma. While shared with the intention of fostering connection and understanding, some content may evoke strong emotions. Please ensure you're in a comfortable and safe space before proceeding. Remember, it's okay to pause, take a break, or seek support as needed.
Personal Note: I used to believe love was something I had to earn through sacrifice, through proving myself useful, through being easy to love. I poured everything into my first love, someone who could not or would not pour back into me. I mistook effort for connection. The idea of walking away from those dynamics felt impossible because I believed I would be unlovable without them.But the truth? I was never hard to love. I was just loving someone who didn’t know how to love me back.The first time I set a boundary with him and stuck to it, my body panicked. It felt unnatural, like I was doing something wrong. But I wasn’t. I was just doing something unfamiliar. I was 19 years old and thought he was my end game. I second-guessed myself, replayed the conversation in my head a thousand times, and almost caved a thousand more. But I was tired. Tired of giving him my 100% and getting fcking scraps in return—half-hearted texts, last-minute plans, the occasional “love you” that felt more like an afterthought than a truth. I used to drive an hour to see him every. single. day. I neglected all my other relationships, my job, my education—even my self-respect.Until one day, I finally had enough. Enough of feeling like I was the only one showing up. Enough of bending over backward to be seen, heard, and valued. So, I stayed home. And when he never came to see me? I finally had the answers I needed. I even started to feel some self-respect—not because I did something big, but because I chose myself for the first time. And that choice, no matter how small, changed everything. I started putting myself first. I promised that I would never allow myself to be taken advantage of or manipulated again.Now, years later, I know this:
Love doesn’t demand exhaustion. It doesn’t require proof. Real love lets you breathe. And the right love? It won’t feel like a test you have to keep passing.
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